All relationships are clearly not meant to be. Only a few really deserve your time and effort. Many times we want a relationship to work so badly that our judgment becomes cloudy and we fail to recognize warning signs that are clearly apparent. Often relationships start out wonderfully but can turn sour while dating. You should invest your time with those people who respect you and will treat you well. Yet, sometimes we overlook some of the warning signs that could save us from future heartache, not to mention the time wasted on someone who is NOT for you.
1. Physical Abuse – physical abuse should always be a deal breaker. Early signals may be extremely rough play where you end up bruised. Other early signs are pushing, shoving, or playfully hitting you too hard. These are signs that he is physically aggressive and doesn’t mind hurting you.
2. Emotional/Verbal Abuse – name calling (no, we aren’t talking about terms of endearment) such as you’re a fat slob, you’re ugly, or anything that doesn’t promote good will is inexcusable. If such terms are being used towards you, drop that person, they do not respect you. Having that person say that they didn’t mean it, or they were joking isn’t an acceptable excuse.
3. Emotional Roller-coasters – avoid people who love you one day, and want to break things off the next day. This person is unstable, and will only continue this cycle as your relationship continues. A person who does articulate mixed messages isn’t emotionally mature enough for a relationship.